Tailored Combination Treatment.
The work I conduct with my clients takes more of a cognitive approach than many other forms of therapy available. It’s underlying success lies in guiding clients to make sense of the feelings and emotions that lead to their problems in the first place. All too often, we are so buried in the effects of our emotions that the root causes become so embedded in our subconscious that we are unable to access them with any clarity on our own, let alone do anything about them. For this reason, a thorough consultation process is paramount.
Once a problem or root cause has been identified, the real work can begin. Often, the effects of that cause will have altered the way that we perceive things that happen in our lives from that point onwards, thereby generating the effects that we suffer from, limiting our life choices and ability to be ourselves.
In her pod-casts with Eckhart Tolle, Oprah Winfrey talks of being beaten by her grandmother for seemingly very little reason. During the whipping, she was told that she had to stop crying. The beating wouldn’t stop until she stopped crying, and afterwards, was expected to behave as though it never happened! She describes having to suppress her feelings and emotions to the point that she wasn’t able to “process” or “dissolve” the trauma in a normal manner. This meant that she wasn’t for some years, able to express any kind of dissatisfaction with unhappy events in her life.
The resultant effect was that she developed a “disease to please” rather than being able to express her disagreement with things which made her feel frustrated with her life. She says that she “ate” that frustration and unhappiness. This is a very poignant expression to have used, because, as she freely admits, she
subsequently had problems with controlling her weight!
Any emotion experienced requires energy to survive in our minds, and if that emotion is negative, we misdirect or waste our life resources and energy on feeding it unless we alter the way we deal with it. This energy would surely be better spend on living our lives with greater freedom from such negative emotions
“I hadn’t realised I’d been carrying so much resentment from my childhood into my adult life and it’s stopped me from doing the things I’ve wanted to....
After just one session with Dave, I felt so much better!”
S.B - Ruthin.
© From The Flames 2010
Denbigh North Wales
